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RE: Your frank opinion

From: Jain, Akshay <>
Date: Tue, 6 Jun 2000 09:38:46 -0400
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I do agree with both sides of this issue. I did not intend to have anyone fired or even disciplined. But when asked exactly why I was leaving, I did explain my frustrations, first and foremost to the manager himself. He agreed as to the cause of my frustrations. He said he was disappointed that I didn't go to him in the first place, even though my unhappiness was known for at least 6 months prior.

To HR, I said specifically what a good guy he was. This is in fact correct. He is a very smart, likeable person, who does know how to manage. Unfortunately, in an environment full of politics, he was a master of politics
more so than anyone, and I felt burned, being of simple mind.

Thus I believe no one was left feeling back-stabbed. I simply did not hide how frustrated I felt.

The lack of success for his *entire* newly-formed group was actually quite plain to the whole company, especially himself. If there was any sort of disciplining after I left, it was entirely foreseeable, and nothing different would have happened had I stayed or kept quiet.

Akshay Jain

Tel. (416) 507-5385

-----Original Message-----
From: [] Sent: Monday, June 05, 2000 7:56 PM
To: Multiple recipients of list ORACLE-L Subject: RE: Your frank opinion

On Mon, 5 Jun 2000, Shockey, David wrote:

> When considering an action such as yours remember this: Perception is
> reality. Instead of being known as the hero who slayed and ogre manager
> his way out you may become known as the problem employee who got his boss
> fired. The boss who was the father of three and active volunteer at the
> local soup kitchen. It doesn't matter if it isn't true if it is what
> perceive.


It's actually possible to discuss/convey where you are at without telling them off, as much as you might want to. Remaining calm and professional, but still discussing the difficult, challenging, or otherwise disorganized environment will convey all the more how professional and mature you are. An even better recommendation might come out of it.



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