X-Received: by 10.183.3.43 with SMTP id bt11mr8514846obd.7.1420148515213; Thu, 01 Jan 2015 13:41:55 -0800 (PST) X-Received: by 10.140.108.9 with SMTP id i9mr1233843qgf.1.1420148515183; Thu, 01 Jan 2015 13:41:55 -0800 (PST) Path: news.cambrium.nl!textnews.cambrium.nl!feeder2.cambriumusenet.nl!82.197.223.100.MISMATCH!feeder2a.cambriumusenet.nl!82.197.223.106.MISMATCH!feeder1.cambriumusenet.nl!feed.tweaknews.nl!209.85.213.216.MISMATCH!h15no34516951igd.0!news-out.google.com!n9ni76qai.0!nntp.google.com!dc16no3507172qab.1!postnews.google.com!glegroupsg2000goo.googlegroups.com!not-for-mail Newsgroups: comp.databases.oracle.server Date: Thu, 1 Jan 2015 13:41:55 -0800 (PST) Complaints-To: groups-abuse@google.com Injection-Info: glegroupsg2000goo.googlegroups.com; posting-host=149.200.193.253; posting-account=KEqDzQoAAAAQq2bGS9IKPwO2v2LrZ1Nu NNTP-Posting-Host: 149.200.193.253 User-Agent: G2/1.0 MIME-Version: 1.0 Message-ID: <95d90432-d56c-4785-8c4d-eaeba74f512a@googlegroups.com> Subject: THE SUPERIORITY OF THE MOTHER IN ISLAM From: bv4bv4bv4@gmail.com Injection-Date: Thu, 01 Jan 2015 21:41:55 +0000 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=ISO-8859-1 Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Xref: news.cambrium.nl THE SUPERIORITY OF THE MOTHER IN ISLAM #1- From Abu Hurairah -radiallaahu anhu- who said: A man came to the Messen= ger of Allah -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- and said: 'O Messenger of Allah= who from the people is the most deserving of my good companionship? The Messenger -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- replied: 'Your mother.' The man said: 'then who?' The Messenger -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- replied: 'Your mother.' The man said: 'then who?' The Messenger -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- replied: 'Your mother.' The man said: 'then who?' The Messenger -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Your father.' [In another narration: '. . . . . the next closest relative then those clos= est after them.'] [Collected in 'Adab al-Mufrad' no.3, Tirmidhi and 'Irwaa al-Ghaleel' 829/22= 32, declared Hasan by Albaani.] In another narration: 'A man came to the Prophet of Allah -sallallaahu alay= hi wa sallam- and said: 'What do you order me with?' The Messenger -sallall= aahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Be good to your mother.' [Collected by 'Adab al-Mufrad' no. 6] [Collected by Bukhari in 'Kitaab al-Adab' in the second chapter: 'Who from = the people is the most deserving of my good companionship?' and also collec= ted by Muslim in 'Kitaab al-Birr wa Silat wal Adab'] Imam Nawawi said in his explanation of this hadeeth: 'The Scholars have said: the reason for the superiority of the mother is du= e to her becoming tired on your account, her compassion, her serving you, s= uffering hardship while being pregnant with you, then giving birth to you, = then suckling you, then bringing you up, serving you, nursing you and other= things.' [Taken from the 'Sharh Saheeh Muslim' 16/80] Ibn Hajr quotes Ibn Battaal in the explanation of this hadeeth: Ibn Battaal said: 'Malik was asked: my father requests me to do something b= ut my mother prevents me from it.' Imam Malik answered: 'Obey your father and do not disobey your mother.' ['Fath ul Bari'10/402] #2- 'Asma bint Abu Bakr said: 'My mother came to me and she is a Mushrikah = (Non-Muslim) at the time of the Messenger of Allah -sallallaahu alayhi wa s= allam-, so I asked the Messenger of Allah -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- ab= out this and I said to him: 'My mother has come to me, and she is asking fo= r me to be good to her, should I keep good relations with my mother? The Messenger of Allah -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Keep good rela= tions with her.' [Collected by Bukhari, Muslim and in the wording mentioned by Abu Dawud: 'A= sma -radiallaahu anha- said: '... and she hates Islam.' 'Saheeh Targhib wa = Tarhib' p.657 no. 2500] Ibn Uayainah said: Allah -Azza wa Jall- revealed: << Allah does not forbid you from dealing justly and kindly with those who = did not fight against you on account of religion >> [al-Mumtahina: 8] regarding her. [Collected by Bukhari in 'Adab al-Mufrad' no. 25, declared Saheeh by Albaan= i in 'Saheeh Abu Dawud' (1468)] #3- It is narrated from Talha bin Muaaweeyah as-Sulamee -radiallaahu anhu- = who said: I came to the Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- and said: 'O= Messenger of Allah! Indeed I want to participate in Jihad in the path of A= llah.' The Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Is your mother alive?' I said: 'Yes.' The Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Stay at her feet, for there is Paradise.' [Collected by Tabraani and Albaani declared it Saeeih li Ghayreehi in 'Sahe= eh Targhib wa Tarhib' 2/2484 p.649] In a similar narration from Muaaweeyah bin Jaahimah where the Prophet -sall= allaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Stick to your mother, since indeed Paradise is at her feet.' [Collected by Ibn Majah, Nisa'i and Albaani declared it Hasan Saheeh in 'Sa= heeh Targhib wa Tarhib' 2/2485] In a similar hadeeth the Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- asked: 'Do = you have parents?' I said: 'Yes.' The Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Stick to them, since indeed Paradise is under their feet.' [Collected by Tabrani and Albaani declared it Hasan Saheeh in 'Saheeh Targh= ib wa Tarhib' no. 2485] #4 - From Ibn Umar -radiallaahu anhu- who said: 'A man came to the Prophet = -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- and said: 'Indeed I have committed a major s= in, is there any repentance for me?' The Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Do you have a mother?' He answered: 'No.' The Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Do you have an aunt (moth= er's sister)?' He answered: 'Yes.' The Prophet -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: 'Then be good to her.' [Collected by Tirmidhi, and declared Saheeh by Albaani and in the wording c= ollected by Ibn Hibban and Hakim: 'Do you have parents?' 'Saheeh Targhib wa= Tarhib' p.658 no. 2504] #5- From al-Mughirah bin Shaybah -radiallaahu anhu- from the Prophet -salla= llaahu alayhi wa sallam- who said: 'Indeed Allah has prohibited you from being disobedient to your mothers, an= d burying your daughters alive, to withhold from what Allah has allowed, cl= aiming something which you do not have the right to claim. And Allah dislik= es gossiping and excessive questioning, and wasting wealth.' [Collected by Bukhari] #6- From al-Miqdam bin Ma'adi Karb al-Kindi on the authority of the Prophet= -sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam- who said: 'Indeed Allah orders you to fulfill the rights of your mothers, then to ful= fill the rights of close relatives then those who are after them.' [Collected in 'Silsilah Sahihah' No.1666] From the Athaar of the Salaf #7- From Sa'id bin Abu Burdah from his father who said: Ibn Umar -radiallaa= hu anhu- said: he was making Tawaaf and he saw a man making Tawaaf while ca= rrying his mother saying: Indeed I am like her submissive camel Even if her ride becomes startled I will not become startled and run away I carry her since she carried me more, do you think that I have paid her ba= ck O Ibn Umar? He said: No, not even one breath while giving birth. [Taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.268, 'Mukarim al-Akhlaaq' p.225, and 'Adab = al-Mufrad' No.11and authenticated by Albaani] #8- From Abu Hazim: that Abu Huraira -radiallaahu anhu- did not perform Haj= j until his mother died. [Collected in 'Mukarim al-Akhlaaq' p.80, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.268= ] #9- From Muhammad who said: 'There was a date palm which bore one thousand = dates, so Usamah bin Zayd -radiallaahu anhu- went to these dates and cut th= em off the tree due to their beauty. He was asked about it, so he said: Ind= eed my mother mentioned to me that she would love to have them, and there i= s nothing from the Dunya that my mother wants and I have the capability of = getting except that I will get it for her.' [Collected in 'Mukarim al-Akhlaaq' p.225, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p. 2= 68] #10- From Ibn Abbas -radiallaahu anhu- that a man came to him and said: 'I = proposed to a woman but she refused to marry me, someone else proposed to h= er and she liked him and married him. I became jealous over her and I kille= d her, can I repent from this?' Ibn 'Abbas asked: 'Is your mother alive?' He answered: 'No.' Then Ibn Abbas said: 'Repent to Allah -Azza wa Jal- and come close to Him a= s much as you can.' The narrator said: I went and asked Ibn 'Abbas -radiallaahu anhu-: 'Why did= you ask him whether his mother was alive?' Ibn Abbas -radiallaahu anhu- answered: 'Indeed I do not know of an action closer to Allah -Azza wa Jal- than being= good to one's mother.' [Collected by Bukhari in 'Adab al-Mufrad' no.4, declared Saheeh by Albaani = in 'Silsilah as-Sahihah' 2799] #11- From Abu Hazim that Abu Murrah, the freed slave of Umm Hani the daught= er of Abu Taalib informed him that he rode with Abu Hurairah to al-Aqeeq wh= ere his land was. When he entered his land he yelled at the top of his voic= e: 'O my mother Assalamu alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu' She replied: 'Wa alayka assalam wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu' He said: 'May Allah have mercy upon you as you brought me up when I was sma= ll.' She said: 'O my son, and likewise to you, may Allah reward you with goodnes= s and may He be pleased with you, as you look after me while I am old.' [Collected by Bukhari in 'Adab al-Mufrad' No.14, and Albaani declared it to= have a Hasan Isnad] #12- From 'Atta that a person's mother took an oath from him that he should= not pray except the obligatory prayer and not to fast except Ramadan, 'Att= a said: 'Obey her!' [Collected in 'al-Birr' by Ibn al-Jawzi p.67, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' = p.269] #13- From Humaid who said: When Umm Eyaas bin Muaaweeyah died, Eyaas cried,= it was said: 'What makes you cry?' He said: 'I used to have two doors open= towards Paradise and one of them has been closed.' [Collected in 'al-Birr' by Ibn al-Jawzi p.68, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' = p.269] #14- Muhammad bin al-Munkadir said: 'I spent the night massaging my mother'= s leg and Umar spent the night praying. His night would not make me happier= than my night.' [Collected in 'al-Hileeyah' 3/150, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.269] #15- From Jafar bin Sulayman who said: Muhammad bin al-Munkadir used to pla= ce his cheek on the floor, and then say to his mother: 'place your foot upo= n it!' [Collected in 'Mukarim al-Akhlaaq' p.226, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.27= 0] #16- From Ibn 'Awn who said: 'Muhammad bin Sireen used to when he was with = his mother lower his voice and speak slowly.' [Collected in 'Mukarim al-Akhlaaq' p.226, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.27= 0] #17- From al-Hasan that a man said to him: 'Indeed I made Hajj and indeed m= y mother has given me permission to perform another Hajj.' So al-Hasan said= : 'To sit with her at her table is more beloved to me than your Hajj [i.e. = optional Hajj].' [Collected in 'Mukarim al-Akhlaaq' p.227, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.27= 0] #18- From Hisham who said: Hafsah bint Sireen used to ask for Allah's mercy= upon her son Huthayal and say: He would go and get reed and stalks to make= a fire, he would peel them and gather them in the summer time, so when it = was lit it would not produce smoke. When it came to winter time he would co= me and sit behind me while I prayed and he would light a small fire so that= I could feel the warmth from it and so that the smoke from it would not bo= ther me. I used to say to him, O my son it is night time go to your wife, a= nd he would say: 'O mother I know what you want.' She continued: 'If I did not continue saying it to him perhaps he would be = there till the morning time!' [Collected in 'al-Birr' by Ibn al-Jawzi p.53, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' = p.270] #19- From 'Ali bin al-Hussain that it was said to him that you are from the= best amongst the people but I do not see you eating with your mother? He answered: 'I fear that, if I eat with her, my hand might precede her eye= upon some food, so I would have been disrespectful to her!!' [Collected in 'al-Birr wa Silaah' p.82, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.270] #20- From Mansoor who said: 'It has been said that the mother receives thre= e quarters of al-Birr [being good to her].' [Collected in 'al-Hileeyah' 5/42, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.271] #21- From Abu Bakr bin 'Aeeyash who said: 'I was sitting with Mansoor in hi= s house, and his mother came and she was harsh and said: 'O Mansoor, Ibn Hu= bayrah wants you to be a judge and you refused!?' Mansoor did not raise his= eyes up to look at her and his beard would touch his chest due to lowering= his head.' [Collected in 'al-Birr' by Ibn al-Jawzi p.53, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' = p.271] #22- From al-Hasan bin Nuh who said: 'Khamas used to work using plaster eve= ry day for two small coins, and when the evening would approach he would bu= y a piece of fruit with that and bring it to his mother!' [Collected in 'al-Hileeyah' 6/212, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.271] #23- From Mughira who said: 'Talq bin Habeeb used to help his mother with h= er work.' [Collected in ash-Shuyb/7543, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.271] #24- From Hafsa bint Sireen who said: 'Umm Muhammad bin Sireen was a woman = from the Hijjaz, and she loved dyed clothing. When Muhammad would buy her c= lothing he would buy her the softest material that could be found, and if i= t was close to Eid he would have her clothing dyed.' [Collected in 'Tabaqaat' by Ibn Sa'd 7/228 taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.2= 71] #25- 'Amr bin Ubayr used to visit Khamas, he would greet him with Salaams a= nd sit with him and his companions. So his mother said to him: 'Indeed I se= e this person and his companions and I dislike them, and I am not impressed= by them so do not sit with them.' 'Amr and his companions came to him and = he came close to them, and said: Indeed my mother dislikes you and your com= panions so do not visit me.' [Collected in 'al-Hileeyah' 6/212, taken from 'Akhbar as-Salaf' p.272]